FRIENDS and LOVERS

Every now and then I come across a story about how a couple started out as being best friends, each having its own unique tale. Guys and girls tell me how difficult it is to keep quiet about admiring someone so close to them. How they spend so much time talking, hanging out and joking around with each other. It’s always really satisfying to hear that everything worked out after the guy or girl confesses getting the same feelings in return. But sometimes things don’t turn out so well. It’s hard being rejected by someone you tell all your secrets to and you might think things will never be the same again.

My best friend is...`U'... U and I have been friends since I'm not sure when.. He helped me through a lot of family issues, boy troubles, and school drama. And I helped him as well. Even the times when we had a significant other to occupy our time, I was the first he would find to talk and he was the first I would go to as well. We weren’t like most people. We would always make fun of and tease one another. We both knew it wasn’t flirting and we didn’t’ care about what other people thought about how we treated each other. Although we had an odd relationship, we still loved and appreciated each other as friends.

After a while, I noticed something different with U. He started being… really nice to me. It was pleasant to be respected and treated well, but I got suspicious because this wasn’t my best friend U. It was… this different nicer U. Call me crazy for wanting the rude U back. I confronted him about it and he confessed that he was starting to see me more than just a friend.

I loved U more than ever as a friend, but I just couldn’t see myself with him. I didn’t have those kinds of feelings for him and it was hard to hear him say he had those feelings for me… And that’s what I told him.

We stopped talking to each other for a few weeks because he told me he needed his space. It was horrible. I missed the name calling and the advice he gave me. He was the only person I wanted to talk to but I couldn’t. It was as if I was dumped by my best friend.

Even though I thought that this was the way it was going to be from now on, I just didn’t bring myself to accept it.

Eventually I confronted him and told him that I still needed him as a friend because I knew he still needed me as a friend. At that time, his feelings for me didn’t exist since he isn’t the type of guy who will have false hope. We slowly started talking again and soon, I had my best friend back. We don’t make fun of each other so much anymore but it’s nice to know we worked things through and remain best friends until this day.

So even though things may be rough with any situation, try and be the bigger person to work it out.